1. Asnake Gebeyehu
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I am a 2nd year student. I have a girl friend and we were in relationship for the past 2 years. But we haven't had sex sofar. My dorm mates are telling me that I have to ask for sex now otherwise she might go to someone else for sex asuming that I don't love her. I am really confused. What shall I do? Shall I ask her for sex? thank you Dr.
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Dear TN member,

Thank you for trusting us to share us your concern.

As a young adult, it’s normal to think about sex, have sexual feelings, and have a desire to learn more about your own body. Sex is about choice. People have the right to choose to have sex or not, set personal boundaries and limits, make sexual decisions serious, talk to a partner about limits and safety, and protect each other with a condom and safer sex practices
Deciding to have a sexual relationship is an important decision since it involves both your body and your emotions. You need to make sure that it’s the right decision for you. It’s always good to have a trusted adult to talk to.

There are many things that are important to think about before you decide to have sex, including whether this is what you want and whether this is the right time in your life and in the life of your partner. You should also think about how you will feel afterwards. It should be a decision made without any pressure from your partner or friends. You should never let others pressure you into having sex if you don’t want to and you shouldn’t pressure your partner too. The decision to have sex for the first time (and every time after) is yours and your partner’s, not anyone else’s!

Dear member, remember that it’s completely appropriate to wait to have sex. Young women and men choose to wait to have sex for many reasons, such as wanting to wait until they are older or married, being unsure about what they want, having certain religious beliefs, or wanting to avoid the possibility of getting a sexually transmitted infection(STI) or getting pregnant.

Cheers!
Dr. TemariNet
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I assume that asking for sex makes your friend un happy because you and your friends have your own aim and goal so to reach that aim and goal you and your friend continue as li as the last two years. Don't worry about your friend finding other friend because truth friend always kepps you untill you and your friend goes to graduation!
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ውድ የ TemariNet አባል፡
በቅድሚያ የአንተን ጉዳይ እንድንካፈል ስላመንከን እናመሰግናለን፡፡

እንደ ወጣት ስለ ወሲብ ማሰብ፣ የወሲብ ስሜት መሰማት እና ስለ ራስ ሰውነት ተጨማሪ ለማወቅ መፈለግ የተለመደና ጤናማ ነው፡፡ የወሲብ ግንኙነት መጀመር ግን ምርጫ ነው፡፡ ሰዎች ወሲብ ለመፈጸም ወይም ላለመፈጸም፤ የግል ድንበሮች እና ገደብ ለማበጀት፤ የፆታ ውሳኔን የምር ከባድ ጉዳይ ለማድረግ፤ ከፍቅር ጎደኛ ጋር ስለ ገደብና ደህንነት መነጋገር እንዲሁም ጥንቃቄ የተሞላበት የወሲብ ግንኙነት በኮንዶም ለመፈጸም የመምረጥ መብት አላቸው፡፡

የፆታ ግንኙነት ለመጀመር መወሰን በህይወታችን ውስጥ ከምንወስናቸው ትልልቅ ውሳኔዎች መካከል አንዱ ነው፡፡ ምክንያቱም አካል እና ስሜትን የሚያካትት ውሳኔ በመሆኑ ነው፡፡ ስለዚህ ሁሌም ውሳኔው ላንተ ትክክለኛ ውሳኔ መሆኑን ማረጋገጥ ይኖርብሃል፡፡ ይህን ለማድረግ ሁልጊዜ ከታማኝ አዋቂ ሰው ጋር መነጋገር ጥሩ ነው፡፡

እዚህ ላይ የፆታ ግንኙነት ለመፈጸም ከመወሰንህ በፊት ልታሰብባቸው የሚገቡ በርካታአስፈላጊ የሆኑ ነገሮች እንዳሉ ለመጠቆም እንወዳለን፡፡ ለምሳሌ፡- ይህ በሕይወትህ እና በአጋርህ ሕይወት ውስጥ አሁን የምትፈልጉት ነገር ነው ወይ? ትክክለኛው ጊዜስ አሁን ነው? በተጨማሪ ከዚያ በኋላ (ወሲብ ከፈጸማችሁ በኋላ) ሊሰማችሁ የሚችለው ስሜት ምን ሊሆን እንደሚችል ማሰብ ይኖርብሃል፡፡ ይህ ውሳኔ ከፍቅር ጎደኛህና ከሌሎች ጓደኞች ግፊት ነጻ መሆን አለበት፡፡ አንተ ሳትፈልግ ሌሎች የጾታ ግንኙነት እንድትፈጽም ጫና እንዲፈጥሩብህ ፈጽሞ መፍቀድ አይኖርብህም፤ አንተም ደግሞ በፍቅር ጎደኛህ ላይ ጫና መፍጠር የለብህም፡፡ ለመጀመሪያ ጊዜ (በኋላም ሁሉ ጊዜ) ወሲብ ለመፈጸም መወሰን ያንተና የፍቅር ጎደኛህ የጋራ ውሳኔ እንጂ የሌላ የማንም ሰው መሆን የለበትም፡፡

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what other people tell you should not affect the way you carry on with ur planned issues brother...well sex with your girlfrnd is not bad however you should stick to the principles that guide ur relationship. my advice to you is that dont let other people drive ur relationship.think of what is the best for you...please be aware
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i think u must not ask ur girlfriend for sex b/c it has many risks or consequences and also be aware that love is not sex
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